No Husband Left Behind
HIM & HER — Together (on the Same Page)
[Win]
Not Imitating Others
Do you ever feel like you would obtain more respect by imitating someone else you know? Maybe that couple who appears to have the “perfect” marriage? Perhaps you would be better off simply being that incredible “couple” who has a “genuine” and “sincere” relationship before God and the world.
[Appearance]
Have you ever noticed how some of your friends look and sound so perfect on social media? You know, their best “photos” and versions of the “stories” which have no negative or disappointments attached. Maybe their lives really are “nearly” perfect. Then again, maybe we are missing out on the “rest” of the story.
If you and the love of your life would like to appear “more” perfect than you already do, avoid arguing in public. If something happens while you two love birds are out with family or friends, wait until you get home to “discuss”. Whenever the perceived response is to “fight”, remember to wait until both of you are behind closed doors.
Please understand that you should never feel compelled to “put your game face on”. If you are seriously in need of help, stop and ask for help from someone who loves you. The pastor of your local church should probably be on your list for obtaining “advice”. Also, consider reaching out to other “Christian” couples within your community.
[Reality]
Try to relax and just be yourselves. There is never a good reason to look like some other “perfect” couple you know. No two marriages are ever “alike”. You are doing good when you live the life which our Awesome God has entrusted you with. And always love your “less than perfect” spouse.
By the way, your “best friends” list should consist of people, at least some of them married, who are “genuine”. You really do not need to listen to anyone who feels the need to “avoid” certain details of their marital lives. Focus on being your “real” self, and connecting with others who value the same.
Even if you do not feel like the “perfect” child of God, learn to live by your own convictions. Reading the Bible and praying will help guide you along the journey. Learn to be content with “what you have” and “who you married”. Your Heavenly Father will make certain that everything works out as planned.
[Help]
Jesus is the only person worth imitating. His love, compassion, mercy, and so on makes Him an incredible person to follow. You likely know one or two other individuals or couples who can advise you if and when necessary. Never be too proud to learn from someone else who sincerely cares about your success.
Try not to waste your life by always looking for something better. You really do not need anything else. The Creator has provided you with everything you will ever need, deep down inside of you. Working with your other half, your very best will develop and come out over the course of time. Try not to be in a hurry, as you may need years or decades for your life and marriage to look “perfect” before others.
Today is your day to set aside all negative perceptions of you and your spouse. How would you like to feel great about who you are and what you are doing? Well, maybe it is time to begin living your most “real” life while sharing everything with your other half. As you connect with other people, try to simply leave a positive impact by “saying” something “positive” and “encouraging”. Allow the Holy Spirit to make you a blessing.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)