No Husband Left Behind
HIM & HER — Together (on the Same Page)
[Tip]
Saying Yes Dear
Marriage is supposed to bring you “two” love birds together as “one”. Even your words play a critical role in the success of your relationship. When was the last time you proactively decided not to argue, and simply allow the “love of your life” to have your full agreement and support?
[Sincere]
When you tell your spouse “yes” you really should not be joking. This is a very important moment, and a time for sarcasm will not be welcomed. Perhaps you recall the saying, “say what you mean, and mean what you say”. This is especially important for showing your life partner your love and support during times of disagreement.
Your relationship should be filled with happiness and laughter. Though every marriage should consist of two people who thoroughly enjoy each other, there is always a time for serious behavior. Especially while addressing your spouse as “dear”. Be certain that you are sincerely offering words of kindness.
Whenever you hear yourself saying “yes dear”, consider adding a few extra genuine “considerate” words. You will feel so much better by keeping unity as a priority within your marriage at all times. During those frustrating moments of perceived tenseness and disagreement, remember to quickly take action by releasing both you and your spouse from any further reason to fight.
[Expectations]
Your Heavenly Father has provided you with an incredible opportunity. You are expected to live together in harmony. Hopefully that will be the end result most days, at least after you have released your feelings for “always being right”. Consider telling the love of your life “yes dear” whenever you sense a level of disagreement.
Every husband and every wife will likely have some differences of opinion. Please do not let your marriage become strained by holding on to “your” ideas as the “only” legitimate option. Remember, it is okay to have your own individual opinions, but be careful not to be drawn away by potential never-ending arguments.
If your other half has a difficult time with compromise, your reaction during a time of disagreement will be even more critical. By saying “yes dear” early and often, you will demonstrate your desire for marital success. So good to compromise in each and every argument whenever you are able to do so. Lowering your pride will support your ever-growing successful “Christian” marriage.
[Commitment]
Your marriage is so important, and worth your full commitment before our Awesome God. While supportively loving your other half, your actions stress the crucial need for the success of both individuals. You and your other half should always focus on what is best for “both” of you, never just what benefits one “or” the other partner.
Remember that routine fights are not healthy for any relationship wanting to maintain intimacy. Disagreements are bound to happen, but moving on quickly with a successful resolution is key. As your tongue utters those words “yes dear”, your focus moves from whatever you feel is best to being in this thing “together”.
Never allow your disagreement or fights to get out of control. Your life partner may be expecting some push back at times, but never a knock-down, drag-out boxing match. Christians should especially have a deep-rooted love for God and each other, and every argument should successfully end with time to kiss and make up. Now, are you feeling better about saying “yes dear”?
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)