No Husband Left Behind
HIM & HER — Together (on the Same Page)
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Resolving Your Differences
Have you ever noticed that you and your life partner seem to gravitate in different directions, at least some of the time? Maybe even on those “major” decisions, all of which you should be making “together” right? How should a Christian couple work through these differences?
[Part 1 – Topic]
Perhaps by now you have come to the realization that every Christian marriage should include one “man” and one “woman”. Both genders living together under one roof, while both have their own unique ways of doing nearly everything. Finding a proper balance is critically important.
Instead of pushing each other away after yet another argument, why not consider looking for an alternative approach. Hopefully you are already aware that many other married couples have learned to make it work throughout the ages. Maybe you can even think of an older couple you know who really enjoy each other all the time.
Since our Creator designed both the “male” and “female” (Adam and Eve) and called His decision “Good”, we should accept the fact that He knows what is best for the entire human race. In marriage, the “husband” and the “wife” need to learn how to work as a team (within the family, the church and the community).
[Part 2 – Problem]
So, you and the love of your life struggle with not being on the same page. Both of you have different “preferred” choices when decisions have to be made. Even your methods for how to get things done are not coinciding.
Maybe you are currently working through something at this very moment, and have not discovered any possible compromise. Something where both of you feel your ideas were taken seriously, and your input appreciated.
Likely both of you have tried to work together on something of importance, only to walk away feeling frustrated and disappointed. Being able to have your voice is important, yet you do not want your marriage to hit yet another “low” moment.
[Part 3 – Solution]
Over the next day or two, schedule some “talk” time with your dear spouse. Ask the love of your life “why” they want to do things differently than you prefer. Please pay close attention, as you really need to “listen” and “hear” what the real concern is (from the heart).
Starting today, make it a habit to integrate something from each of you in to every “major” decision. Maybe even the “minor” ones as well. The end result should look a little bit like a compromised “part-husband and part-wife” strategy. And remember that your final decision should give “both” of you a sense of satisfaction (and contentment).
Right now, take some extra time in prayer alone with your Awesome God. Just you and your loving Heavenly Father. Ask for His help (as to what “you” should say and do). After all, He also wants your marriage to be highly successful.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)