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Planning Together
Whether you totally agree with me or not, married couples should be able to “plan” all “important” things together. Every marriage consisting of two opposing ideas about nearly everything will likely encounter opposition. Our Awesome God wants both of you love birds to live together in harmony. Especially when “planning” and “spending”.
[Part 1 – Topic]
Not everyone values the “planning” process, even when making very “important” decisions. Let me challenge you to make these decisions together, where both of you have “equal” input. And the end result should give “him” and “her” what they really need and want most.
Some events you may prefer to plan “without” your spouse’s input or awareness. A fun “surprise” party would be a perfect example. Have fun planning this event without your spouse knowing. Just remember to do things “tastefully” and on a “budget” that both of you would approve.
Every expensive “high ticket” item should be discussed. Maybe now feels like the perfect time “for you” to make a purchase. Then again, maybe you and your other half would be happier if you waited just a little while.
[Part 2 – Problem]
So, you tried to plan things together in the “past”. Nothing but “frustration” resulted as both of you discovered different priorities. Honestly, trying to purchase “every” single need, want, and desire for both of you can get very “expensive” fast.
You could be making “secret” plans (without your spouse’s consent) for one of those larger purchases in the next few days. Likely, your other half will not be happy to find out afterwards. Would you be willing to sit down and “discuss” your great ideas beforehand?
Maybe you want to “surprise” your dear spouse for a “special” time of celebration. You really do not want the love of your life to know about the surprise, but could it impact your marriage negatively in some way down the road?
[Part 3 – Solution]
Even if you two love birds attempted to “plan” things together and failed in the past, try to keep an “open mind” about the present and future. As your marriage matures, hopefully things will always feel a little better, with time.
Making “financial” decisions and spending your combined resources together is always the “preferred” choice. Some couples want to keep their “individual” spending habits to themselves (in private). Having a discussion in advance should allow both of you time for “talking” and “listening”.
Consider sharing your “surprise” idea with a “trusted” friend in confidence. This will provide you with a “second” opinion before moving forward. If nobody comes to mind, prayerfully seek the advice of your Creator. He always knows best.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)
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