No Husband Left Behind
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Not There Yet
Have you ever been asked, “are we there yet”? Probably you are remembering a time in the not-too-distant past, likely while driving in the car. Do you recall what answer you provided? And just how long did “no” or “not yet” last before that same annoying question was proposed once again?
[Part 1 – Topic]
How do you personally feel about how your own marital relationship has progressed since your wedding day? Honestly, it may be very difficult to accurately measure, especially if you are so incredibly busy and distracted with life.
Do you feel that you two love birds are “there” yet? Well, only you and your spouse could ever really figure out the “where” you both desire to be in your relationship. Then, it will be much easier to identify whether you have arrived yet or not.
Try to relax and enjoy the ride, if possible. Remember, elements of our lives are far better evaluated as a “journey” and not as a destination. Every single day is an opportunity to get to know each other better, and to love your life partner even more.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Maybe your expectations of what Christian marriage should look like are much higher than your actual experience. Everything “good” must be included, and nothing “bad”. No hard times, or frustrated moments. And definitely no fights, right?
Perhaps even your patience level has started toward the dreaded direction of running thin. And now your blood pressure may even be on the rise, especially while most of your energy must be reserved for “keeping it cool”.
Worse yet, you could even be feeling a sense of failure. You are doing so much, and with so little results. Should you really be expected to just sit around and wait for your other half to “get their act” together?
[Part 3 – Solution]
Please never forget that your Heavenly Father has great plans for both of you love birds. There are so many examples throughout the Bible of married couples who made better choices once they looked to their Creator for help and guidance.
Patience is said to be a virtue, and seemingly so few people ever really appear to obtain enough. As you and your spouse work through things, please try to accept the reality that one of you may be moving slower than the other. That is okay, as long as you are both heading toward that same desired goal.
Lastly, allow your deep-rooted, genuine love to help during those bumpy rides and roller coaster ups and downs. Every Christian marriage hopes to bring two people together (as one). Maybe the best thing you can do today is to simply forget about what you want (for now), and ask your other half what can you do to show your sincere love.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)