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More Than Sex
Not that it is anyone else’s business, but what are your thoughts about “having sex” within marriage? Should every husband and every wife feel compelled to just give in to their partner’s demands, or not? Any other boundaries you believe to be important?
[Part 1 – Topic]
Christian marriage includes only “one man” and only “one woman”. Simply, there is just no room for anyone else. No mistress or additional lovers on the side. Well, maybe your spouse would consider a “canine” or “feline” for you to snuggle with.
Bedroom exercise known as “sex” is used initially to consummate the marriage, right? Well, I am not planning to go around and interview all of the couples my wife and I have connected with as “friends”. Though, I truly believe most of them seem to be somewhat happy … whatever they are doing behind closed doors.
One young husband (and would-be-father) plus one young wife (and would-be-mother) should at least be considering the idea of participating in God’s plan of procreation (“be fruitful and multiply”). Please do not feel obligated to keep up with everyone else.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Not all married couples end up with children. Of course, there are different reasons why the “art” of “making babies” does not always “bear fruit”. Whether you already have any children or not, you should hopefully feel a strong desire to focus on some intimate time with your spouse (and life partner).
Honestly, with billions of people on the planet right now, I am not really sure that every marriage should feel obligated to add to the growing census. If you two love birds have been “trying” to have a baby, stay with it. You may decide to consult your doctor about anything else which could be more productive.
For so many young professionals, there are distractions around every corner. Graduating from college, and paying for it in full. Then, filling out applications and getting hired where you can see value in starting your career. At some point, you will also want to have your own place to come home to.
[Part 3 – Solution]
Whatever stage of life and marriage you find yourself, please feel free to simply enjoy your alone time for intimacy with the love of your life. Hopefully you can enjoy being a married couple without feeling any stress about “getting pregnant”. Even if your parents and in-laws are crying around about “wanting” grandchildren, your health and marriage should come “first”.
Quite possibly some were meant to be parents, while others maybe not. When I was younger, I pondered that crazy story about having to rely on a “stork” to get the infant child to the correct address. Well, maybe GPS will keep things moving more smoothly.
If you have a genuine interest in having a child (and have been unsuccessful so far), maybe volunteer in your local church or within the community helping out with a children’s program. If you still feel a strong interest in “having your own”, maybe spend a little extra time in prayer (remember the mother of the great prophet Samuel).
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)