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More Than Handholding
Do you feel married couples should still “display” their love and affection through handholding? And should they keep it locked away behind closed doors, as opposed to publicly displaying their commitment to one another before the entire world?
[Part 1 – Topic]
Do your hands still enjoy some time of embracing? Not “your” hands (left and right together). I mean one or both of your hands embracing one or both of your spouse’s hands. Or, was that something you two love birds forget to keep alive?
Hopefully you and your other half are experiencing even more affection now, after officially tying the knot. Marriage is an opportunity to formally commit your lives together, both of you for life. That should never be a reason to display less affection as your relationship matures.
When you said “I do”, your witnesses included those in Heaven and those on Earth. Why not allow them to see that you both “still” enjoy doing life together. Now I am not encouraging you to invite any of us in to your bedroom. Maybe your living room or porch, if you are open to the idea of having friends come over and visit your home.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Some couples may not desire to demonstrate their affections, especially while out in public. Trust me, I truly understand. Some people (seemingly with nothing important to do) are just looking for any means to pervert or distort the holy matrimony which you and your dear spouse have entered.
Possibly one or both of you may wish to “hide” your genuine commitment within your relationship. You may even find yourself thinking that “your” romance is really none of anyone else’s business. Maybe you would simply prefer them to go and find some other couple to watch.
What if you discover a lack of enthusiasm or interest after yet another very long, frustrating and tiring day at work? You just may not feel like holding your life partner’s hand right now. Besides, you have been married long enough that your spouse really should know you truly care by now, right?
[Part 3 – Solution]
Please be certain to schedule some time for affection and personal touch, even if only in private. Both of you will likely desire to hold the other person’s hand at times. Try to make an effort to increase those moments to at least once every single week. Daily would be ideal, but let’s not push it.
Consider planning to take a walk for exercise or to get some fresh air. Honestly, this is a great time to consider walking “hand-in-hand” together. You may even want to invest some energy in to discussing what you enjoy about the person right there beside you.
One last thought: never feel embarrassed in any way about “telling” or “showing” the world just how much you are sincerely committed to your marital union. Even though it really is no one else’s business, your family and friends really should be absolutely certain that you two love birds are the real deal.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)