No Husband Left Behind
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How Are You Feeling?
Throughout any given day, you will likely experience some level of changes to your “feelings”. Of course, you really should do your very best to stay “emotionally healthy” in your marriage. Both of you love birds working together have the ability of making things better.
[Part 1 – Topic]
Feelings and emotions are not exactly a “discussion” topic for everyone, though very important to evaluate (at least from time to time). Even if you feel awkward about the topic, consider what is possible in your own life and marriage.
Depending on what has been said or done to you (or someone close to you), your feelings toward someone or something could be negatively impacted. This is especially not a good thing if the person is related somehow. Even worse if they live under the same roof.
Honestly, if you are not feeling well right now, perhaps the best thing to do is simply focus your attention and prayer time on the Awesome Creator and God who gave you life, breath, purpose, meaning, love, and so much more. Trust Him to bring about a solution to every problem.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Maybe you are really not sure what is going on, but have some concerns or suspicions. What should you do to keep from getting hurt? And how can someone truly love and care deeply for another person and not want the very best (even if they struggle with making better choices)?
Possibly having feelings that you two love birds are going in separate directions could be of legitimate concern. Even more so on critical or important matters, your feelings are real and should be able to get expressed. Maybe even appreciated at times. Hopefully in a loving sort of way, but how?
Spouse has recently let you down. Frustration and aggravation have set in for now. Simply hoping for some kind of improvement in the relationship (before too long). Honestly, you may be wanting some encouragement to know how to get things mended once again.
[Part 3 – Solution]
Misunderstandings are the reason for many marriages ending in divorce. Make sure you get the other half of the story before making any conclusions. Please try to always remember the reason you “fell in love” with your special some (in the first place).
You and your spouse should be free to consider more than one way of doing things. Most of the time, compromise becomes the best choice (50/50). Bringing in each of those most important components of what “he needs” and what “she needs” is so important for successful negotiations.
Maybe right now is the best time for you to take a few moments to clear your mind. Then, spend some quality alone time, just you and your life partner, talking about a solution you both can agree upon. Remember, to offer a loving smile and complete forgiveness (for both of you).
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)