No Husband Left Behind
HIM & HER — Together (on the Same Page)
[Connect]
Doing Chores Together
So, how difficult is it for the husband and wife in your home to “work together” on tasks which need to get completed? Do you find yourself better off going in a different direction when the love of your life begins doing the chores? Maybe you have identified at least one thing on the “chores” list you can successfully do together (without fighting)?
[Part 1 – Topic]
Likely your home has “his” chores and “her” chores. Do both sets ever get completed at the same time? If not, could you possibly find a way to do both sets of chores together (giving you more time while also supportively helping each other)?
Some tasks may be quicker and easier for just one person, not two people. How about both of you working at least in the same part of the house? Maybe dusting or cleaning the “same” room?
One of you may prefer working “inside” the house, while the other goes “outside”. Of course, both areas have value in maintaining, right? This way, both the house work and yard work are getting completed.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Maybe you are willing to try doing your chores with your dear spouse, but not sure it is a good idea. After all, you may end up screwing things up. Then, listening to your life partner complain about the mess you made.
Possibly you hate doing certain tasks, like washing the dishes. So, the love of your life takes care of it (while you take care of something else). What could you possibly do to repay the favor (out of gratitude)? You know, doing something nice to say thanks.
One of you may enjoy doing your chores earlier or later than the other. At different times of the day, like morning versus evening. Depending on all of your other responsibilities and commitments, you may not have much choice (at least during your workweek).
[Part 3 – Solution]
Some couples may actually work better together, if they keep “some” distance. Try to focus on completing all of those necessary tasks. And be sure to keep things where neither of you is the “boss”.
Even if and when you strongly dislike certain chores, maybe you could try to help your spouse out with doing it just one day a week. Or, possibly identify something else that you could do to make your spouse’s life a little easier.
Try to identify at least “one” task you two love birds can “share” each day. Like clearing the dishes and silverware from the table after supper. Anything which gives both of you some time together while working toward a common goal. Sounds promising?
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)
Other resources which may be of interest…
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“3 Things to Tell Your Spouse Tonight”
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“Identifying Your Top 3 Must Haves”
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