No Husband Left Behind
HIM & HER — Together (on the Same Page)
[Challenge]
Minimize Frustration for Spouse
Do you think you number one purpose in life is to annoy your spouse, and promote a level of aggravation? Probably not. Maybe you could evaluate things you have recently said and done, looking for any triggers which may have caused frustration for your other half.
[Words]
First, let us take a moment and remember what you have recently said which may have caused some aggravated response in return. At times, we may say things which we really do not mean, or speak out too quickly with insufficient thought and preparation.
Consider the need to be more careful in what actually comes out of your mouth. Words can be especially dangerous and hurtful, if not properly spoken after at least some consideration. Your “meaning” deep within you is far too important to get lost inside of mere words. Embrace the idea of words which create a more peaceful environment.
Even your body language should remain positive and welcoming around your other half at all times. Try to always lovingly accept what your spouse has to say and do as “intended” for good. How you return your thoughts expressed in words will potentially help to remedy any moments of possible misunderstanding and needless arguing.
[Actions]
Second, consider what you may have recently done which could have caused some frustration for your life partner. Perhaps your intentions are good, but consider what your spouse may really be “needing” from you. You have so much potential inside, and should have an incredible marriage filled with love and appreciation for each other’s words and actions.
Can you think of anything you may have done recently which could have been misconstrued? Learning to see from each other’s point-of-view will give you clearer perspective. Getting both of you love birds on the same page is so critical for true intimacy within your marriage.
Even if you are determined your actions are perfect, maybe the time has come to have a little discussion with the love of your life. Please be open to hearing and changing, simply to promote a more relaxed home setting. Offering to help out more around the house could even help with moving that discussion along.
[Responsibility]
Third, please be willing to take full responsibility for every one of your words and actions. If and when any level of misunderstanding takes place, you can always take some time to share “from the heart”. Your deep-rooted love should cause some passion to flow from within, and frustration to hopefully become a learning opportunity.
By opening up to seeing from your spouse’s way of interpreting, you will be able to begin replacing any annoying behaviors with something different. By only saying and doing things which promotes love and concern, your Christian home and marriage should flourish to become an example for others within the church and community.
When all else fails, and you have no idea of what you have said or done to cause frustration within your marriage, just “ask” your spouse. Perhaps you could say something like: “love of my life, what do you think I need to do to minimize frustration within our home and marriage?” This may actually be all that was ever really needed in the first place.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)