No Husband Left Behind
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[Challenge]
Say I Am Sorry (before bedtime)
You may be questioned what you ever did to have to be sorry about. Well, that really is not the point of this exercise. She may have misunderstood something you recently said, and is hoping you will let her know how much you love and appreciate her.
In marriage, you really do not want to ever have to be “right” or “wrong” — just “in agreement”. So, if you are feeling perhaps a little distance in your relationship right now, it is perfectly fine to let her hear your “I am sorry” speech.
Wait, what? Why do I have to be sorry? She is the one who … (oh, maybe someone needs a moment to cool down). Most couples that my wife and I know have little disagreements and learn to work things out, after “he” boldly goes where most husbands have never gone before.
Just maybe you told your loving spouse something recently that did not seem to go over as planned. You never said or did anything which should have upset her, but … (trust me, I understand). After being married for more than two decades, I am starting to notice even “my own patterns”.
At times, we speak our minds (and that should not be viewed necessarily as bad). As long as we do not forget about the dreaded “foot in the mouth” syndrome. Far too many times, I wish I could un-say something that came out wrong (never intended to hurt my other half).
What is very important in marriage is to constantly attempt to read the vibes from the love of your life. In the earlier years, this may be very difficult … so feel free to just ask her. “Beautiful ray of sunshine, have I said anything stupid recently which I have not yet apologized for?”
Is your beautiful wife still smiling and laughing and happy today as her usual self? Since the COVID-19 lockdown, you did not by chance say anything about her “changes”, have you? If you made any comments about something where she is experiencing no real progress (or even getting worse), maybe you should begin practicing your “I am sorry” speech. Do you recall any discussions around her “gaining weight” on that new weight loss program, or becoming a worse “television addict” while her chores all get behind, or even … (let’s stop here and take a moment to remember why you love her so much).
May we never forget that “you chose her”, and “she chose you”. Even if you are shaking your head and questioning what in the world you could have possibly been thinking, the two of you have felt drawn to one another. Now our goal is to keep it that way. Whether her family loves and values you or not, her decision was to take a risk on you and with you (she deserves your very best). So, how is your “I am sorry” speech coming along?
By the way, if you missed the last “before bedtime” opportunity, consider scheduling your short “I am sorry” speech for this evening (or tomorrow evening) — just don’t put it off any longer. Deep down inside, she is hoping you will always come and tell her how much you really love and appreciate her, while accepting any possible “faults” she may have. Remember, every husband and every wife is “human”. It if perfectly fine to say or do something stupid … but, it is not okay to be so full of pride and arrogance that you are not willing to say “I am sorry”.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)