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No Sharing Marital Secrets
Do you feel that everything happening inside your home and marriage should be “public domain”? Where all of your neighbors and colleagues and maybe even the mailman knows everything going on? Or, do you see things the opposite way where everything must be kept in “total” confidence (and no room for discussion).
[Part 1 – Topic]
Secrets are never good between the husband and wife who desire true intimacy. But should any one else ever be let in on what you love birds share in secret? Is there any benefit of ever sharing what goes on behind closed doors in your home and private life with others?
Never forget, domestic violence is always unacceptable. You should never feel the need to hide your pain and suffering. This should “not” be kept hidden. Physical and mental abuse usually requires talking to someone and getting help outside your home and marriage.
You may be tempted to share everything with a “best friend” (someone willing to listen and maybe even able to help). Just be extra careful not to share those more “intimate” things, like what your spouse would be very upset or embarrassed to discover others knew about.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Perhaps one of your parents or in-laws asked some questions you do not want to answer, at least not right now. So, why do certain relatives actually feel they have the “right” to access private information (which is considered off limits to everyone else).
At some points along the journey, you may feel nearly ready to crack. Too much pressure from those who consider themselves “looking out” for you. At times, you may genuinely need “someone” to talk to for advice. But, who can you “sincerely” trust?
You have a decision to make, and both of you cannot seem to come to a “mutual” conclusion. Regardless of how long a man and woman have been married and living together, they will “both” often bring a “different” solution to every problem.
[Part 3 – Solution]
Every relationship should have “boundaries”. Certain things should always remain “classified”, where only you and your spouse know. Most everything else likely should be fine to share with a “trusted” friend. Just take a quick moment right now and decide what should “remain” confidential.
Honestly, you may have a “secret” that needs to be brought out into the open. Perhaps your marriage would improve significantly with some “counseling” with your “pastor”. Or, someone you know very well who has been married for “decades”. This is especially helpful in times where you two love birds are arguing or fighting.
Problems and concerns should always be brought before the Throne of God. He always knows what is best, and wants nothing less for you. Every Christian husband and every Christian wife should use prayer to talk and listen to our Awesome Creator. Remember, He is available at all times.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)
Other resources which may be of interest…
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“3 Things to Tell Your Spouse Tonight”
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