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Forgive Quickly
So, how are you doing in the area of “forgiveness”? Especially when the love of your life continues to “nag” and drive you “crazy”. Did you say or do something recently that you wish you could just take back? Is your dear spouse needing “you” to “forgive”, even if you are not yet ready to “forget”? Perhaps you need to ask for forgiveness?
[Part 1 – Topic]
Sooner or later, your spouse will likely do something that will aggravate you. Maybe even significantly disappoint you. Possibly even just push you over the edge in disgust. So, what should you do about it?
Should genuine lovers really have to forgive over and over again. Day after day, week after week, month after month, and year after year. Never seemingly getting your relationship to the level you two love birds once envisioned, and still actually hoping for.
Generally speaking, how quickly are Christians to forgive those who offend us? Possibly at some point in the “future”, but only if they come crawling back to us while dramatically “begging” for our forgiveness. Maybe even in the “rare” case when we had a chance to “reflect” and see our own mistake.
[Part 2 – Problem]
So, you cannot believe your life partner said something that forcefully “raised” your blood pressure through the roof. Or, was it something that was done that really “rubbed” you the wrong way? This hopefully does not happen too often (as your health is very important to both you and your main squeeze).
Your expectations for your spouse may be “too” high. Anything “less” than “perfection” will probably cause some level of annoyance, right? Have you noticed if your expectations are somewhat “higher” now, since getting married (compared with when you were dating)?
If your aggravation and disappointments have continued over time. First, for weeks and then for months, you may now be feeling a sense of disgust. Never really seeming to make any progress or headway. Does your Heavenly Father really expect you to just “forgive” endlessly, no matter what?
[Part 3 – Solution]
Even if and when you are breathing fire out of your nostrils, you should take a few minutes to step away and cool off. Be sure to say nothing at all until you have a chance to get refocused on what is actually most important for you to say and do.
Having relatively “higher” expectations of your other half should be considered normal in Christian marriage. If and when you ever have feelings below “utter-sheer-bliss”, be very quick to forgive. Maybe you will need to apologize “first”, and ask for forgiveness. Even if it was not your fault in the first place.
Forgiveness is very beneficial to both the receiver as well as the giver. Your health is far too important. So, forgive as quickly as you can. Forgive your boss. Forgive your colleague. Forgive your spouse. And especially forgive yourself. Never forget your Awesome God has forgiven you.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)
Other resources which may be of interest…
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“3 Things to Tell Your Spouse Tonight”
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