No Husband Left Behind
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Listening Attentively
So, where does your mind go when your dear spouse begins to talk? Are you thinking about lunch? Maybe a project you are looking forward to getting started. Remember, the thoughts and ideas of your other half should always demand your attention and interest.
[Part 1 – Topic]
Right now is actually the very best time to just stop whatever you are doing and start paying attention to the love of your life. Of course, you should finish your priorities at work and around the house. Then, maybe you will be able to focus appropriately.
When your dear spouse asks or tells you to help, probably the best idea at that moment in time is to lend a helping hand. Even if you have several people or projects pulling you in different directions. In the long run, you will be much better off.
If you two love birds find yourself out with other people, it may seem a little more difficult to tune in to what you can and should do to support the needs of your life partner. If noise and other distractions frustrate the situation, plan to talk with your spouse later on. Once home, you will likely hear each other. Plus, you will enjoy more privacy.
[Part 2 – Problem]
What if the love of your life is pouring out heart and soul into a quick conversation, but you simply just do not have any quality time right now? Getting out the door and to work on time is critical. Especially if you want to be responsible and keep the bills paid.
Maybe after a long day at work you would rather relax and watch a movie, and not talk at all right now. After all, what is the big hurry? Maybe it can just wait until after you have a little time to unwind.
Perhaps you, and the very special person whom you married, set aside a few minutes to talk. Yet, you find yourself uncertain as to whether you should respond in some way. After all, you cannot identify anything of serious concern (at the moment).
[Part 3 – Solution]
If your other half wanted to talk earlier, maybe you should call or send a text message later in the day about wanting to schedule some talk-time for right after work (as soon as you get home). This should re-enforce your genuine interest in your marriage.
Possibly you decided to postpone any discussion until your mind was clear. Or until you felt more prepared for it. As soon as you are able and willing, ask the love of your life about their day. And make sure you “listen” attentively.
Throughout your long and productive day, you likely missed something important. Before going to bed, take some time to tell your life partner, “I love you” and really mean it. Also, be sure to ask where you can be more helpful tomorrow.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)
Other resources which may be of interest…
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“3 Things to Tell Your Spouse Tonight”
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“Identifying Your Top 3 Must Haves”
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