No Husband Left Behind
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Making Decisions Together
Do you actually involve your dear spouse when making “important” decisions? Or do you think it actually delays the process by days or even weeks? Maybe you are concerned about not getting what you have worked so hard for. Well, would you be willing to consider the possible “value” your other half adds to the decision process?
[Part 1 – Topic]
Do both of you always want the same thing? Probably not. Honestly, the man of the house likely will never want “exactly” the same things in his life as his wife. And the woman of the home usually will want things a little different than her husband.
So, you recently saw something that you would love to buy. What do you think your spouse will probably have to say about your choice? Would the love of your life be totally in agreement, or completely against, or somewhere in between?
Should married couples really have to take the extra time to decide things together? Would it be easier to just “divide” the house in half and allow both of you to decorate “your” half as desired? Or, should you take a moment and try to meet somewhere in the middle with a little compromise?
[Part 2 – Problem]
Somehow you two love birds have different ideas of what is most important when it comes to spending money. Couples generally consist of one person who is usually more liberal with spending (more), while the other person is probably more conservative with spending (less).
Maybe you want to enjoy your Saturday doing something totally different than your other half has planned for the two of you. Should you just give in and make the love of your life very happy, or should you follow through with your plans so you can be happy?
Possibly parents or in-laws or others nearby trying to tell you love birds what you “should” be doing. This adds an extra layer of pressure onto your decision-making process. Does it make sense to incorporate the advice of others, especially when they do not even live under the same roof?
[Part 3 – Solution]
Honestly, one of the best ways you will share an hour or so alone together is by “listening” to each other’s priorities. Sharing your heart’s desire while also hearing from your other half can be so rewarding. And it could help you make far better choices.
Compromise may be needed, at least every now and then. Try to always adjust “your” plans to make the love of your life “top” priority. The wants, needs, and desires of your life partner will always be far more important than your “to-do” list.
Though others seem to mean well, what you and your spouse decide together is what should be your “first” and “last” choice. Granted, the wisdom of others can be helpful. At the end of the day, you will be happier by talking about everything, and making all important decisions together.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)
Other resources which may be of interest…
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“3 Things to Tell Your Spouse Tonight”
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