No Husband Left Behind
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Not Holding Back Your Best
You have likely heard that marriage is “give and take”. I honestly am not really sure if I agree with that statement completely. Probably more accurate to say “give your very best” at all times. Hopefully this will be reciprocated to make the marriage one of mutual giving.
[Part 1 – Topic]
Do you ever feel the need to intentionally “hold back” something from your spouse? Perhaps if you have recently heard something “negative”, and could impact both of you. Possibly changes happening at work. Maybe even aspects of your life which both of you for whatever reason do not share (like your favorite hobby).
Distractions seem to occur everywhere around us. Colleagues talking about problems they are having at home with a spouse or child. Maybe your favorite tv show ending this season. Or anything else that pulls you in two or more directions keeping you from giving your very best (at all times).
So, what (if anything) would you feel would be better for you to scale back from? Less time in the break room at work. More Bible reading and prayer throughout the day. Maybe a quick “text” or “phone call” telling the love of your life those special words, “I love you…”
[Part 2 – Problem]
At times, you may be required to work late causing you to feel very tired while at home. Of course, your boss will want your best. And even your spouse will want your best. What can you do to keep everyone your care about happy?
Then, you will likely have so many chores or projects requiring several hours of your time every week. Depending on your list for this week, you may simply just not have the motivation to “get started” on that new project (at least not this week).
Maybe your other half is also being pulled in multiple directions. Both of you should spend some quality time together, helping and supporting one another every week (as much as possible). So, how can you always give your best, where everyone seems satisfied?
[Part 3 – Solution]
Work, church, community, and other commitments have strong merit in a Christian’s life, but never at the expense of time with God or spouse or family. That should not be anything you have not already heard before now. This is just a reminder of what’s “most” important.
So many things to get caught up on may feel extremely important to a “responsible person” like yourself, yet “never” more important than investing at least “some” quality time with the love of your life. Plan no less than “one hour” alone every single day, just you two love birds.
If your spouse seems extra busy today, offer to help out for at least an hour. Maybe you will get that same kind of help in return (when you really need it), but never make if feel required.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)
Other resources which may be of interest…
FREE PDF:
“3 Things to Tell Your Spouse Tonight”
https://freebie.nohusbandleftbehind.com/3-things-to-tell-your-spouse-tonight
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“Identifying Your Top 3 Must Haves”
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