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What Are You Saying?
Do you ever question where that dreaded “foot-in-the-mouth” syndrome ever came from? Maybe you wish you could just go back to bed for the rest of the day, then start all over tomorrow (with a better result). Perhaps we should now focus on what is actually within your ability to change for the better.
[Part 1 – Topic]
As a child, did you ever get the opportunity to learn the words from a memorable song: “Oh, be careful little mouth what you say…” Or, should that read “BIG mouth”? Well, in the heat of the moment, it usually seems harder to hold back those words which you will probably feel really bad about saying afterwards.
Perhaps you already know that “incriminating evidence” is often derived from what comes out of the mouth of the “otherwise-would-probably-be-innocent” individual now standing trial. Remember the wisdom from the book of Proverbs teaches us that even a fool who remains silent at times will appear to be wise.
Even our Lord Jesus speaking with “spiritual” wisdom to the people was misunderstood at times. Do you recall reading when Jesus spoke to the people inside of the temple about tearing down “this temple” and He would raise it up in three days? Likely you recall that He was speaking about the temple of His body (resurrection), not reconstructing the building made by human hands.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Oops! Did I just say that out loud? Don’t you just hate it when that “inside voice” refuses to keep quiet? All of the sudden with little to no warning those words just come flying out (from your mouth to everyone’s ears). Just ask me how I know what soap “tastes” like.
Oh my, what can I do now to remedy the situation? Especially now there is such disappointment and hurt feelings… If I apologize right now, will anybody really think that I am sincere? And besides, I was doing just fine before being aggravated half to death.
Maybe even your spouse will struggle with forgiving you, especially now that it feels like the “umpteenth” time. Are you thinking “Christian marriage” is so much harder than everyone else makes it seem to be? How do those old-timers do it?
[Part 3 – Solution]
Prayer should always be your “first” tool from your toolbox. Also, allow yourself some time in God’s Word for wisdom. Likely, the Holy Spirit will already be working on something incredible inside of you, but you will need to “follow” His guidance.
Learn to “forgive” quickly. This really starts with “yourself” when you say something that hurts your life partner or others. Of course, forgiveness is much better enjoyed when “everyone” gets a piece of the pie, right?
If you have recently said something which you now have some regret, take a moment to “apologize” right away. Those dear words, “I am sorry”, can accomplish so much good. Never be so proud that you cannot admit to a foolish “mistake”, and move on (learning and growing from the experience).
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)