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Overlooking Imperfections
Let me guess. Your dear spouse is “perfect”, right? Nothing to ever have to “overlook” or “complain” about at all. Well, for the rest of us, we need to keep an open mind about what our Heavenly Father may be doing “behind the scenes”. Possibly even preparing something remarkable for both of you love birds.
[Part 1 – Topic]
The last time you took a good look at your spouse, did you notice anything “less than perfect”? Of course not. That is definitely a silly question, right? Every day you see that wonderful person as “the perfect one” for you. Nothing could possibly be any better. Or, could it?
Okay, let us take a moment to just be real. Perhaps life is good being hitched to the person specifically “crafted” by God and just for you. Having said that, what is that one thing that your other half does to nearly drive you crazy?
Perhaps all that you can see right now is a trait you never noticed before getting married, how was it not obvious before now? Well, as you both get to know each other better, those little subtleties will likely become more obvious.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Maybe you would be willing to admit that some imperfections are not so easy to just “overlook” or “ignore”. Hopefully you are not losing any sleep having to stay up “all night” in prayer for this “annoying” or “disappointing” trait. Maybe the time has come to just “release” your concerns to Father God.
So, now you have come to the realization that the love of your life is simply not perfect! Wow, what a revelation. How in the world could a “perfect” Creator provide you with an “imperfect” life partner? Seems to me that other Christians may have been considering this same phenomenon for generations.
What if that annoying “imperfection” is driving the two of you apart? Now what? Are you expected to just keep going “through the motions” as if nothing has changed? Should you take a moment and address your concerns, hoping for some kind of improvement?
[Part 3 – Solution]
If you have not already done so yet today, please take some quiet time right now (alone with your Heavenly Father). Prayer is always the best answer when you have a problem that requires a much-needed solution.
Maybe you should also stop and consider if “you” could say or do something positive today to make things better. Now, I am not encouraging you to “start” one of those dreaded fights. Just let the love of your life know that you are praying for the absolute very best life possible. And if warmed up to the idea, then talk about the desired improvement.
Remember, over the course of your marriage, both of you will continue to experience “change”. Part of our “job” as spouse includes being at our own very best, and also supportively “helping” that person you have committed to “for life”. Just remember, a warm and loving approach seems to always work best.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)