No Husband Left Behind
HIM & HER — Together (on the Same Page)
[Connect]
More Than Hugging
Is “hugging” really a thing “after” you get married? Or, do you feel that “hugging” is just for friends and neighbors? Maybe you should take a quick moment and offer the love of your life one of those old-fashioned “hugs” which allows you to get really close for a “moment” in time. If you are willing to hold that position for a few seconds, you might even want to softly whisper “I love you”.
[Part 1 – Topic]
Do you two love birds still believe in hugging? Honestly, probably most relationships would prefer to forget those “less-formal” times. Can you think of the last time you offered a “sincere” hug, wanting your life partner close for just a few quick seconds?
Offering a “hug” encourages those casual moments of close proximity. Probably most notably when heading out the front door. This quick gesture allows for some close physical contact before quickly moving on to your “other” pressing responsibilities.
Hugging is one way of expressing your affection, before your day “officially” begins. You likely will be leaving for work. Or, going shopping for groceries. Usually hugs work well for those “non-intimate” close encounters. Remember to say something pleasant as an added bonus.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Maybe you have “lost interest” with hugging, somewhere along the line. Or, you may be just feeling that “hugging” would be regressing in your marriage. You know, by going backward in your relationship, to the way things were shortly after you two first met.
Perhaps your life partner recently said or did something to aggravate or disappoint you. So, right now is just not the time for “any” form of affection. Hopefully if that is your experience, it will not last very long.
Oh, what about that belief that offering a hug is only for parents to their “young” children. Never thought as a “good” thing for spouses who deeply “love” each other. Well, you could choose to “reserve” your hugging for those whom you feel should be brought in close for a moment or two.
[Part 3 – Solution]
Consider the possibility of integrating a “hugging” routine in to your marriage. Even if it is only when you leave the house without your other half. Remember, hugging is just one form of affection. Maybe even add something extra if your desire.
If by chance you are sensing a feeling of “distance”, take that moment to simply offer a hug. Since you two love birds are married, please feel free to “also” offer other forms of affection, when you both feel the timing is right.
Hopefully you are willing to accept the “lost-art” of hugging as one form of affection (in your toolbox). If you sincerely feel that you must, you are free to “save” your hugging energy for those very casual moments. Especially if you prefer not to share anything more while others are actively observing. Then again, let them talk.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)