No Husband Left Behind
HIM & HER — Together (on the Same Page)
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Still Feeling Butterflies
After the wedding and honeymoon are over, one or both of you will likely question your decision (at some point). Consider this to be perfectly normal, as long as you do not waste the rest of your married life pondering. Maybe you should take a moment and remember what you enjoyed so much about your life partner from the beginning. Can you recall how you felt at that moment your eyes first connected?
[Part 1 – Topic]
Hopefully you have some level of remembrance of when you two love birds started your journey together. First meeting, then casual dating, moving on to serious dating or courting, officially engaged, and last of all “married”. Maybe by just reading this list of typical phases has brought back some exciting memories to mind.
How do you feel right now, as we journey together down “Memory Lane”? My sincere hope is that you are feeling very good as you recall fond memories and feelings of moments in time now past. These “inner” feelings should provide you with some sense of assurance (with your choice of life partner).
Love and romance should remain part of your relationship, over the years and decades of sharing life together. Even when the many distractions of life come, both of you will have someone who cares about your best interests. Try to never forget why you loved your spouse enough to “commit” to spending the rest of your lives together.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Romance may have taken a back seat, at least for now. With so many distracting concerns about important things like your health and work, those butterflies may have been suppressed. Do you think now is too late to share a great moment together? How about discussing how much you really enjoy having the love of your life continue the journey with you?
Perhaps you two love birds have investing far too little quality alone time “together”. Every couple should invest some energy toward being in the “same place” at the “same time”. Being married should give you many reasons to want to be with this incredible person, right?
One or both of you may even be questioning whether “love” really connected both of you in the first place. I suppose some couples are drawn together by mere “attraction” to the outside individual when they first meet. Definitely important to set aside sufficient time to discern whether you even “like” or “love” the real person on the inside.
[Part 3 – Solution]
Decide today that you will embrace those inner feelings of excitement. Be willing to allow yourself to feel “young” again within your relationship. Perhaps you can identify something which the two of you have never done, or at least not recently.
Okay to recall your fondest remembrances of the love of your life. These are the type of memories that are worth keeping alive. Though we should not really ever “live” in the past, those memories help motivate us to want to create more similar ones.
Maybe now you need to rekindle those deep-rooted passions. What could you do this week to tell (or better yet show) your spouse that your love is real? And perhaps the time has come to schedule something outside of what you both consider “normal”. Lastly, have fun being married. Our Heavenly Father would desire it no other way.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)