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Time for Reflection
The “end” of an old year or the “beginning” of a new year is a great time for reflection. Consider investing some quality alone time for looking back over the previous twelve months. What do you recall that really stands out to you? Do you feel like talking about it, maybe with your spouse?
[Part 1 – Topic]
This week, we want to take a few moments and reflect on the “past” year. Though you may have encountered both “positive” and “negative” experiences, let us focus our energy and efforts toward remembering mostly the “good” times, if possible.
As you (and the love of your life) begin to look back over the previous year, think about those times you were both “together”. What comes to mind? Do you remember any specific conversations? How about your “thoughts” or “feelings”?
Do you recall something specific that “you” said or did, and wish you could “take it back”? Maybe you remember your life partner saying or doing something, and your first thought was “the nerve”! Amazingly enough, our minds can recall past instances with incredible detail.
[Part 2 – Problem]
Is there something you wish that you or that knuckle-head (I mean your dear spouse) would have “said” or “done” differently? Please feel free to make a “list” if multiple things begin filling your mind. Taking the time to identify any potential problems is always the first step.
What “concerns” from the past have you two love birds not yet resolved? Anything “negative” from yesteryear should not become extra “baggage” for the new year. Remember, it is always good to “draw the line” so those unwanted issues cease from following you any longer.
How important is having “peace” in your home and marriage? Are you okay with the idea of simply forgetting all of your problems and just moving on? Or, would you really enjoy finding a resolution, and making noticeable progress within your relationship?
[Part 3 – Solution]
First, be sure to set aside some time on both of your calendars for a “marital meeting. This should be alone time, if possible, for “private” discussion. Please feel free to be passionate and pour out you heart as you desire. Be careful not to ever point the “finger of accusation”.
Next, ask your partner for “help”. Having both of you “contributing” to the conversation will usually bring about a more complete perspective. Every marriage seems to grow when both the husband and wife feel comfortable enough to “contribute” to a stronger and more successful marital unit.
Lastly, please “forgive”. Start by forgiving your “spouse”. Be sure to also include forgiving your “self”. Even if the “problem” or “concern” seems to be one-sided, remember to deal with every issue as being “united” together, where the “two” live as “one”.
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)