No Husband Left Behind
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[Tip]
Avoid Derogatory Nicknames
Do you currently have an active “nickname” for your “spouse”? Is it more so “positive” or “negative”? Hey “Knuckle-Head” is probably not the quickest way to building a strong and healthy Christian marriage, would you agree?
[Public]
If you are already using one or more “active” nicknames for your spouse, consider how “others” around you may perceive it. Of course, it really is none of their business. Though, your “couple” friends likely care about both of you equally.
When creating a “new” nickname, take a few moments to consider how it comes across. You should be looking for something that resonates as positive and good (like “Sweet-Heart”, “Princess”, “Snuggles”, etc.)
Try to avoid using high titles of praise, if only being somewhat “sarcastic”. This tactic will generally not be appreciated, especially over time. Keep your partner’s nickname something you both can enjoy and be a little excited about using.
[Private]
A “personal” nickname, used only when speaking or writing directly to and only to your love, should still be healthy when spoken or written. Even though this nickname is only used while alone, remember the importance of being loving and considerate.
Remember to address your other half with kindness and grace. The person you decided to marry (for life) deserves a nickname which even our Heavenly Father would approve. No marital partner wants to ever feel a lack of love, respect, or appreciation.
If you may be considering some changes right now, keep in mind the importance of learning and trying new things. This may be the perfect time to put away certain words within our vocabulary. Only a “strong” Christian can admit and correct wrong doing.
[Purpose]
Remember that nicknames are not a requirement, though many of us seem to have and use them. There is no harm in using and enjoying a “different” name than given by parents or others of influence.
Keep in mind your other half is “loved” by God, and you can do no less … do you agree? You and the love of your life have a God-given “purpose”, so focus your attention on His will. Even your nicknames can and should keep your focus “above”.
Decide today that you will only use nicknames which feel good to the recipient, whether used in public or in private. Building up our other half should be one of the most important things we do within our Christian marriage (for the Glory of God).
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)