No Husband Left Behind
HIM & HER — Together (on the Same Page)
[Challenge]
Serving Your Husband
I can practically hear you now: “I feel like his maid, his nanny, his…” (okay, you are already “working” so very hard now). Even if you feel as if you are waiting on him hand and foot, consider adding just “one” extra task (for this week only). This one thing is your attempt at showing him your genuine love thru your “service”. Even though you have several other things to do “for him”, ponder this attempt at some “extra credit”.
Mission
Over the next day or two, you will want to identify one or two things you could do for your husband. The purpose for giving of yourself to him by offering your services is merely to say I love and care for you. You want him to notice you, so try to identify something maybe out of your ordinary routine.
Please note, you only need to do “one” thing this week. If you think of a second task, maybe hold back until next week or later. Surely you are already working hard enough at keeping things running smooth for him now. We are only looking to add one task, hopefully catching his attention.
When considering possible task options, be extra careful not to move too much in his “man cave”. Otherwise, he may never find anything, and blame you for his stress and chaos. Our goal is to show him how much you really care about him and want to be “supportive” of him.
Examples
You have probably heard the saying, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. Consider making one of his favorite meals for dinner (or ordering takeout from his favorite place to eat). If your budget is a little tight right now, keep it simple and frugal. Honestly, you are only showing him you “care” while getting him to notice you “doing” this for him.
Another option may be doing his chores, especially those which he does not enjoy. This only has to be one time, or it can last for the week (your choice). Possibly consider helping him in the yard with the de-weeding. Or even vacuuming his vehicle (as long as none of that debris has any “lasting meaning to him”).
If you are not interested in “doing” one more thing “for him”, perhaps offering to “help” him out with something. This would allow both of you to “work together” on a task or project. The two of you could work close (side-by-side), or assist him in the larger areas (if you need some room to breathe). Projects like cleaning, redecorating and general maintenance allow for flexibility.
Reasoning
Whatever you decide, just promise me you will not get yourself too stressed or overwhelmed. You are “not” his servant. You are willingly offering your “services” out of love and appreciation and concern. Remember, expect nothing in return (maybe not even a thank you). Your reasoning is simply because you care dearly for your other half.
Your husband will hopefully decide to reciprocate your kindness by helping you around the house (or wherever needed). If this happens, great. If not, consider offering to help him again in a week or two with something else. Over time, you should get noticed and recognized as his “incredibly awesome wife and life partner”.
After you have completed that “one” task you have selected for this week, consider making a “short” list of a few things where “the man of your dreams” could be so helpful. This list could include moving heavier items for you, or anything else where his “manly” services would be appreciated.
By the way, you are awesome. Thanks for the many talents and treasures you bring in to the marriage and home, including those which directly benefit your God-given husband. If he has not recently told you how much you are appreciated, please forgive him. Remember, your Heavenly Father is always available to listen and hear your frustrations in prayer. Continue being your best, and doing your best (for the Glory of God).
From one who forever remains…
“Under the Shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1),
Shawn Episcopo
Christian Community for Married Men and Women — (Knights) & (Damsels)